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Soft Porn and Kids
January 28th, 2012, posted in MESSAGEs, Scarface'S DIARY( Another interesting article which I found and is must read type thing and to understand the gravity of few situations )
Want to know something? Last week someone actually asked me if I watched porn. My reaction to her question was a big what the fuck? NO! It is not unusual for people to watch porn these days. People don’t even take in to account if their religion prohibits them from doing something. Like this girl, that asked me this question, did not take in to account the fact that she is a Muslim and she should not be indulging in so called sin. My second reaction was, oh my god, but she is a Pakistani! How can she watch porn? Then it hit me, since when has nationality stopped anyone from doing anything. People do much worse things in Pakistan, than watching porn and it has been happening from ages. Difference is people don’t talk openly about it. Guys might whisper to their friends, girls -those that do watch- might watch it in secret and never let it be known to anyone else. So why was I so shocked here?
Even though her asking me that question, I felt was a bizarre thing to do; it did get me thinking. She said she did watch porn. That got me in to a very deep thought process. There are a lot of questions that come up in the mind, after hearing such a statement. Why does she do that? How did she get in to this? Then I thought most of us, we try to stay away from hardcore porn, but sometimes we are oblivious to the soft porn which surrounds us. It has become such a normal thing for us to be surrounded by all kinds of soft porn in our daily lives. We want to avoid hardcore porn and in some countries, it is banned by proxies, but yet, we see strong hints of it all the time and sometimes we don’t even realise it. What is the use of banning porn, when we can still see traces of it all around?
Not long ago, Katy Perry released a Sesame Street video. On first hearing about this, one would wonder it would be kid friendly, because of the name Sesame Street. Well, I thought that Katy Perry’s Sesame Street video was soft porn. The dress was displaying way too much cleavage. It is a KIDS show for heaven’s sake. When we were younger and used to watch Sesame Street, we never had any half naked women appearing on the show. We just had Big Bird, Elmo and the others with their usual self, being funny. Displaying a female with a large cleavage and her breasts half dangling outside her dress like that, in a video that is promoting a kids cartoon brand, is wrong.
It’s wrong for both the genders, female or male. It was Freud who said that, even young kids start to develop sexual feelings towards their mothers/fathers from a relatively tender age. That’s where Electra and Oedipus Complexes come from, along with Castration Anxiety. What is to say they, these kids, don’t develop sexual feelings towards other people? I don’t think this is as prevalent in Desi Society or Religious Households in a country like Pakistan for example, but in the West, children do start getting curious from a very small age. This is because of the exposure to adult things that the kids are getting, all thanks to the media and the internet. In countries like Pakistan, such exposure is less, but to say it doesn’t exist would be wrong.
Also, in my opinion, girls and guys choose their sexuality when they are kids. Either they want to be queer or they don’t. They only come out or realise their true sexuality when they grow up. There could be many extraneous factors because of why this happens. However, why I even brought in the development of sexual feelings is because, when children look at a hot sexy body like Katy Perry’s, (that is not the author’s opinion, it is the general opinion) they might start to develop feelings or start to get curious. Seeing such things on television may prompt them to ask around before time. Due to peer pressure and interactions with other kids at school, more and more kids will be affected and will be exposed to such things. Then more kids will watch the Sesame Street video. The young girls who might see her body would subconsciously be attracted to her and not even realise that they are developing a liking to the same sex. Later on, when they will be older, some girls who were exposed to this video at a young age might decide to turn Lesbian and they won’t even know it, that this video was the one that triggered their true sexuality. The boys that would watch Katy Perry’s video would start having wild thoughts and feeling sensations that they don’t even know about. They would ask their mum about things, too early. The image of a sexy Katy Perry could embed in their minds and they could start relating their mothers to her, in result getting attracted to their mothers and developing a complex.
Some days ago, I was talking to an acquaintance of mine who is a mother to a 3 year old child. What she told me shocked me a lot. She told me that her 3 year old had taken her phone while she was in the shower, and snapped a picture. Then he also knowingly or unknowingly, uploaded that picture to Facebook. Most probably it was unknowingly. This incident is not really connected to sexuality or why kids should stay away from soft porn, like Katy Perry and her revealing PVC dresses, but it is a statement to the fact that these days’ kids are becoming intelligent and knowledgeable about things. These days things do affect children and are impressionable on their minds. We should be careful with what we are exposing children to. Don’t think that it’s okay they are just 2 or 3 years old, what if they do see it won’t affect them. You never know, it just might. They might not be affected by what they see in the short term or act on what they see, but it might certainly be retained in their subconscious mind, only to influence them without them knowing when they grow up.
I was reading about this controversial book by this author Laurie Halse Anderson. It’s called Speak and it is being banned by State Schools in Missouri. This was in the news some time ago. Now the author and other people are rallying support against censoring and banning of the book. It deals with a topic of sensitive nature, Rape. Is it right to censor or stop schools from displaying such a book in their libraries? What kind of literature should kids read? What age is okay to introduce kids/teens to sensitive taboo topics? We have so many things around us which send subliminal messages to children of sexual nature.
Subliminal messages are being relayed in forms which can be found in Magazines, Advertisements and so on. We are living in a ‘Porn Culture.’ Everything that is geared towards children these days is somewhat of the sexual nature. We are living in a hypersexualised world. A lot of soft porn floating around and it is up to us to safeguard ourselves and our children from it. Let us take Justin Beiber as an example. He is the idol to millions of teen girls and young girls worldwide. He himself is very young, just 16 years of age, yet he has become some sort of a demi god/sex god to many. He has a cult following and little girls who probably didn’t even know what words like ‘horny’ meant before, now do all thanks to him. People have created groups on Facebook and chat about him all the time on Twitter. Least to say those discussions is always G rated.
Children these days have become dependent and reliant on images from the media for their identity and it affects a lot on their personality as well. Children rely on over exaggerated and hypersexualised material to find out what is hot, cool and suitable for their peer group. All this is told to them by the media and children blindly follow and become involved. These days, soft porn culture which includes Katy Perry’s PVC dresses, have normalized the porn/rock star look in every household to a certain extent and anything less looks dowdy, prim, proper and downright boring. Children who cover up or wear reasonable formal clothing are being made fun of.
Soft porn is bad for the kids, especially for girls that are growing up. An American Psychological Association’s study has concluded that sexualizing young girls has a lot of negative effects in a variety of domains. ‘These includes, damage to cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, sexuality, and attitude and beliefs.’ Some of the effects include, risky sexual behaviour, higher rates of eating disorders, depression, low self-esteem and lower academic performance.
Good thing is many people are realizing what damage soft porn is to society and our children and they are doing something about it. Like in the case of the cancellation of that Cartoon Network series. Also, it is an effort at the personal level. Parents should step in and give a hand in this, to stop this menace. The culture should be helping us raise our children and it shouldn’t be that the culture is undermining us. We should start at a personal grass roots level and spread awareness about this and keep our kids safe, before their innocent minds are corrupted or most probably, further corrupted.
Infortmation on WWW
January 26th, 2012, posted in MESSAGEs“The wealth of information available on the WWW is worthless unless you know how to search, select and use this information for the good.â€
The WWW is one of the seven services offered by the Internet. It blends the best and not-so-best of the textual information with graphical capabilities of today’s desktop system. On the web you will find information related to almost every topic under the sun. The Web is widely accessible to everybody, making its popularity grow rapidly. Though this service is widely functional, only a few know its further benefits. It’s probably because most of the people who browse the Net, refuse to explore or are only limited to a small range of Web pages.
Those who would like to venture or are already hooked to the WWW, must be acquainted of its different types of queries. The subject directory which is said to be the best way to do subject-oriented research. Academic and Professional Directories and Commercial Directors and Portals are subordinates of a subject directory. Search Engines are also at hand to entertain general queries. Meta Search Engines are also helpful for they give you the most significant entries regarding your topic. Lastly there is the Deep Web which is widely used for non-textual information or PDF files. Thus, familiarity with the WWW’s queries will definitely make you utilize the service to its fullest.
Furthermore, everyone should be given enough literacy about the computer as it gradually becomes a necessity in a fast-paced society we live in. along with enough knowledge about WWW, one is also bound to be responsible enough in choosing the Web pages he would want to patronize or indulge to. The WWW undeniably caters the widest compilation of sites regarding all fields. And due to its universality it is also prone to abuse. As Web browser we should set limitations on how much to explore and learn to control ourselves in getting to something that won’t do us any good. The WWW is such a wonderful innovation man created , when accompanied with the proper skills in handling and manipulating it we can fruitfully achieve our goals with regards to using the WWW.
What Goes Around Comes Back Around
January 24th, 2012, posted in LYRiCSHey girl, is he everything you wanted in a man
You know I gave you the world
You had me in the palm of your hand
So why your love went away
I just can’t seem to understand
Thought it was me and you babe
Me and you until the end
But I guess I was wrong
Don’t want to think about it
Don’t want to talk about it
I’m just so sick about it
Can’t believe it’s ending this way
Just so confused about it
Feeling the blues about it
I just can’t do without ya
Tell me is this fair?
Is this the way it’s really going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should’ve known better when you came around
That you were gonna make me cry
It’s breaking my heart to watch you run around
‘Cause I know that you’re living a lie
That’s okay baby ’cause in time you will find…
What goes around, goes around, goes around
Comes all the way back around.
Now girl, I remember everything that you claimed
You said that you were moving on now
And maybe I should do the same
Funny thing about that is
I was ready to give you my name
Thought it was me and you, babe
And now, it’s all just a shame
And I guess I was wrong.
Let me paint this picture for you, baby
You spend your nights alone
And he never comes home
And every time you call him
All you get’s a busy tone
I heard you found out
That he’s doing to you
What you did to me
Ain’t that the way it goes
You cheated girl
My heart bleeds girl
So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt
Just a classic case
A scenario
Tale as old as time
Girl you got what you deserved
And now you want somebody
To cure the lonely nights
You wish you had somebody
That could come and make it right
But girl I ain’t somebody with a lot of sympathy
You’ll see.
See?
You should’ve listened to me, baby
Because
What goes around comes back around.
By Justin Timberlake
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