POiSON WORLD

Having made such a decision, on the presumption that my offer of love has been accepted and reciprocated, I am now by own free choice committed to the happiness, security, and well being of a person I love. I will do everything I can to help that person build whatever dreams he or she has . It is this commitment, which I make when I offer my love. When I question myself about the place love has in my life, I must therefore ask if there is a person in my life whose growth and happiness is as real or more real to me than my own. If so, love has truly entered my life.

I might even ask if there is any person or cause for which I would give my very life. Jesus has told us that this is the greatest love “No one can give a greater proof of love than laying down his life for his friends.”The Angel moved closer and touched the woman, “But you have made her so soft Lord.” “She is soft,” Lord agreed, “but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish.”

Obviously, the commitment to love will involve me in much careful and active listening. I truly want to be whatever you need me to be, to do whatever you need done, and I want to say whatever will promote your happiness, security, and well being. To discover your needs, I must be attentive, caring and open both to what you say and to what you cannot say. However, the final decision about the “loving thing” must be mine.

This means that my love may be “tough” love, not at all sweet and coddling. You may ask me for another drink when you are already inebriated, or you may ask me to join you in some deception. Of course, if I truly love you, I must say an emphatic “NO!” to these requests. If you are on a self-destructive course, like alcoholism, you will meet in me a firm and confronting love. But, when needed, my love will also be “tender”. If you have tried and failed, and you just need a hand in yours in the darkness of disappointments, you can count on mine.

I may read you wrongly on occasion and misjudge your needs. I have done this so often to so many in times in the past. But know this that my decision is to love you and my commitment is to give you true love and lasting happiness. I am dedicated to your growth and fulfillment as a person. If I should fail you, for lack of wisdom or because of the abundance of weakness in me, please forgive me, try to recognize my intention, and know that I will try to be better.

Be ready to find in me a person you can bump into . Of course, you have a corresponding set of rights, and I will try to be very careful in respecting them.

And please have the courage to tell me at times what you are thinking and feeling. I have no x-ray eyes to know yourhidden thoughts or feelings. I cannot guess your preferences. You must tell me. Making assumption is a dangerous game .

The truth about love, I think, is that it is indeed a profound comfort, but it is also a monumental challenge. Love immediately challenges me to break the fixation I have with myself. It will drag me all the way from my infantile ID to a complete self-donation to a cause or to a person in freely given love.

In other words, if you don’t want to
– Break the fixation with self and give up your self-centeredness
– Learn how to care about and be sincerely dedicated to the satisfaction of another
– Become a sensitive listener who hears what is said and some things that are not able to be said
– Postpone personal gratification to meet the needs of another
– Get in touch with your deepest feelings and most hidden thoughts
– Share your most vulnerable self as an act of love
– Get honest feedback from someone who really knows you through your own self-disclosure
– Give up your pan-scales and be prepared to give 100 percent
– Take on the added responsibilities for a “WE”
– Work at the delicate art of a dialogue and shared decision-making

If you don’t want these things, then obviously you don’t want love.
“The salvation of man is through and in Love”

Likewise, Alfred Adler said that: “All human failures are the result of lack of love”

The experimental evidence forth crippling effects of a loveless life is found in the office of every psychiatrist, filled with children and adults who have no awareness of their own worth, no sense of identity, who are filled with hatred and fear and tortured by anxieties.

The message of Unconditional Love
The essential message of unconditional love is one of liberation. You can be whoever you are, express all your thoughts and feelings with absolute confidence. You do not have to be fearful that love will be taken away. You will not be punished for your openness or honesty. There is no admission price to my love, no rental fees or installment payment to be made. There may be days when disagreements and disturbing emotions may come between us. There may be times when psychological or physical miles may lie between us. But I have given you the word of commitment. I have set my life on a course. I will not go back on my word to you. So feel free to yourself, to tell me of your negative and positive reactions, of your warm and cold feelings. I cannot always predict my reactions or guarantee my strength. But one thing I do know and I do want you to know I will not reject you! I am committed to your growth and happiness. I will always love you.

“It is only with the heart
That one can see rightly
What is essential
Is invisible to eye”

“Unconditional love should not be conceived as making two islands into one solid landmass. A love relationship, should rather be like two islands that remain separate and distinct, but whose shores are washed by the shared waters of love” ( Khalil Gibran)

The Gift of my love means this I want to share with you whatever I have that is good. You did not win a contest or prove yourself worthy of this gift. It is not a question of deserving my love. I have no delusion that either of us is the best person in the world. I do not even suppose, that of all the available persons, we are the most compatible. I am sure that somewhere there is someone who would be “better” for you or for me. All that is really not to this point. The point is that I have chosen to give you my gift of love and you have chosen to love me. This is the only soil in which love can possibly grow.

“We’re gonna make it together even when we are apart ”

“ Your smile makes me simile… Keep smiling always…. So that I can smile ”